Question

【題目】When a friend approaches you in the heat of a moment, it can be hard to know what to say. There’ no blanket approach for every person through every crisis (危急), but a few guidelines could help you offer the best support.

Friends going through a crisis often just need someone to talk to and explore their feelings with, but the trick is to listen without sounding like you’re judging. Reorganize “why” questions, which can imply you’re questioning their judgment, but ‘how’ and ‘what’ questions, and ‘who’ and ‘when’ seem caring and sincere.

Open-ended questions that can’t be answered with a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ will also help friends dig into their deepest feelings during a crisis. While your loved ones talk through their replies, practice active listening by focusing on their answers. After all, your friends probably just need someone to listen and prove them, rather than hearing you offer potentially unhelpful advice.

When you do respond，avoid telling friends in crisis how they “should” be feeling. “ ‘Should’ is not a valid term, saying it’s not OK for you to feel these societally ‘weak’ feelings,” says Michelle Kuchuk, director of training for Crisis Text Line. “If you’re only hearing ‘you should feel great’, you’re never going to speak again or get that weight off your chest if you think other people will judge you.”

On the other hand, tying those positive feelings to a specific action can feel more sincere. If friends hear “you’re so strong” without an example to back it up, they might never believe it. But if they’ve been explaining how hard it was to talk to someone else, praise them for taking that brave step.

Finally, it’s more important for a friend to know you’re there for support than stressing about saying the right thing during a crisis. Just be a friend and really listen to that person, not with your own agenda but “what is this person really going through?”

【1】Who is this passage intended for?

A. People to be consultants. B. People in need of support.

C. People going through a crisis. D. People supporting friends in crisis.

【2】What is your most suitable question to ask one talking to you?

A. Who did that1? B. When did you start it?

C. How did you feel about it1? D. Why did you feel that way?

【3】What does the underlined part mean in the 4th paragraph?

A. Tell the truth out. B. Relieve their pressure.

C. Keep everything secret. D. Leave your baggage behind.

【4】What is suggested to respond to your friends’ talking?

A. Preparing your questions beforehand.

B. Giving them as many instructions as possible.

C. Praising them constantly by encouraging words.

D. Expressing your appreciation for a small behavior.

Answer 1

【答案】speak again與 weight off your chest 是近義詞A選項Tell the truth out.

【解析】本文主要講了當朋友處于危機，困難時，我們應該怎樣來安慰他們。這里列舉了幾項方法。好的方法可以使朋友得到寬慰。

【1】D 主旨大意題。本文主要寫給那些朋友處于危機中的人們。故選D。

【2】C 推理判斷題。根據(jù)文中Reorganize “why” questions, which can imply you’re questioning their judgment, but ‘how’ and ‘what’ questions, and ‘who’ and ‘when’ seem caring and sincere.可知，詢問別人最合適的表達是用how或者what。故選C。

【3】A 詞義猜測題。根據(jù)文中“If you’re only hearing ‘you should feel great’, you’re never going to speak again or get that weight off your chest if you think other people will judge you.”可知，如果你聽到“你應該感覺很好”，這樣的話，你會覺得別人是在評判你，那么你就不會再說了或者把事實講出來。所以畫線部分的意思是把事實講出來、故選A。

【4】D 推理判斷題。根據(jù)文中On the other hand, tying those positive feelings to a specific action can feel more sincere.可知，回應一個人應該用樂觀的情感，贊賞別人。故選D。