15．Self-respect is a very important part of a great life．Self-respect is a feeling of being happy about one's characters，abilities and beliefs．If we are short of self-respect，we will be unsafe．Developing self-respect means developing self-confidence to deal with whatever life throws at us．The following are some ways we can improve our self-respect．
There is great social stress from parents，work and society to become a certain person and to achieve certain goals．A real self-respect is important that you believe in your own values and remember what is important to you．Other people think you should behave in a certain way，but it doesn't mean they are right．Everyone needs to follow his or her own path．Even if others don't respect your decision，it is important that you do．
Nobody likes criticism（批評）．To keep a sense of self-respect，we need to learn how to deal with criticism．Don't take criticism personally．Don't get sad by the things other people say or do．Maybe it is completely untrue，so pay no attention to it．If there is some truth，we can use it to develop our characters．However，it is important not to take criticism too personally．
Jealousy（嫉妒） of other people's success is a common way of losing our happiness and self-respect．Jealousy is simply envy of other people's success．We feel unhappy when we cannot enjoy their success．The truth is that there will always be some people more successful than us．The method for lasting self-respect is to be happy with others'success．
If you have no respect for others，how can you have self-respect？It isn't right to feel better by putting others down．If we look for good qualities in other people，it is easier to remember the good qualities in ourselves．
Forgive others and yourself．Don't live in the past，but move on from the past mistakes and difficult situations．If your mind is full of problems in the past，you will always feel ashamed and sad．Self-respect comes when we value our attitude towards life and other people．
Sometimes we work with the best of motives（動機） only to be disappointed by the result．It is the nature of life that things will not turn out as we hoped，but it is a mistake to link our sense of self-respect to the achievement of targets．
| Title | How to develop respect for yourself |
| Theme | Keeping a sense of self-respect is of great （56）importance to a great life． |
Idea of
self-respect | Self-respect is a feeling of being happy with one's characters，abilities and beliefs．It can make one （57）improve self-confidence of dealing with all kinds of problems in one's life． |
Ways to develop
Self-respect | Being true to yourself
Believe in your own values and （58）follow your own path． |
Learning to deal with criticism
●Never get（59）unhappy by things other people do or say．
●Pay no attention to untrue criticism and try to make progress from true criticism． |
Avoiding jealousy
●Jealousy will lead to the （60）loss of your happiness and self-respect．
●Learn to be happy when others become（61）successful． |
Respecting others
●It is （62）wrong to feel better by putting others down．
●Look for the good qualities in other people and we can remember ours more（63）easily． |
Forgiving
Move on from the past mistakes made by others or yourself．
Don't let your mind filled （64）with the mistakes in the past． |
Remembering your motives，not your（65）result
It is normal that we work with strong motives，but fail to make achievement． |
